By now you may be getting the hang of making things "not about you". If so, good work! If not, go back to this post and start to work on it. But what now? What the heck do you do with that angry person still in front of you. Yes we can have compassion and… Continue reading Difficult client hack: using 6 human needs psychology to your advantage
My daughter had a melt down at school today. I was enjoying my day off by blogging on the beach when I got the phone call from her teacher. I could hear her crying and screaming in the background. I could tell from the quality of the screams that there was no talking any sense… Continue reading Every moment you get a choice, learn how to choose wisely
When I began doing personal development work one of the most helpful things that I learned from Stacey Martino* was "it's not about you". It's not about you is a kind of mantra that I keep close at hand at work all day, everyday so that I can rely on it when I need it.… Continue reading “It’s not about you” is the perspective shift you need to set you free
Are you a people pleaser? Have you ever said those words in reference to yourself during an interview? Like most women, I was taught as a child to do as I was told, to act in a way that would please others and to always think of others' feelings first. What if I told you… Continue reading Hello, my name is Ericka and I’m a recovering people pleaser
It seems as though the most common response when I tell people what I do is "I always wanted to be a vet too but I could never put animals to sleep. That must be so hard". To which I just nod and say yes it is because really that's the only socially acceptable answer.… Continue reading It’s not that I don’t care. It’s that I care too much. Why compassion fatigue should be called empathy fatigue.
Why start a blog. Why do I think I have something important to say. Why should I be vulnerable with complete strangers. Why, why, why. The questions are endless but it all really boils down to one answer. I like to help people. Actually I feel compelled to help people. As a veterinarian you would… Continue reading It all starts with my why